Let your cape come off…every now and then

Susan EllisSo different than the laid back, uninterested parents so many of us had when we were growing up, many of us now try to be Supermom for our kids.

We try to anticipate their every want and need.   We believe that a well fed child is a happy child, so food is never served late.   Many parents can be found constantly tying their kids shoes because they’re running late for the play-date that was set up for them.

We tend to hover in our mommy helicopters.   Many of us believe there are too many crazy people in the world for them to walk home from school, so we pick them up.  We only allow them to play outside where we can see them.

Now as a parent of two children with high-functioning Autism, this methodology has been critical for most of my boys’ lives; but they’re starting to get older.  They’re now…teenagers!  And in the last couple of years, we have been focusing mostly on teaching them life skills such as laundry, cooking, shopping, etc.  I find, however, that my boys surprise me the most when I occasionally let my supermom cape…fall.    One morning, we were running late trying to get ready for school.  Before I could put my cape on,  I saw that my youngest son got his entire lunch ready without my consistent “friendly reminders” (a.k.a. nagging) of what to pack next.  He knew exactly what to do… all on his own!   Guess we can now check that off the list

supermom-capeLast week my oldest son, now in 10th grade, was being released from school earlier than I had expected.   Oops!  Guess my cape fell off!  He couldn’t find my car in the parking lot.  So after waiting a while, he began to walk home.  Of course this was the only day his phone battery completely died because we forgot to power it up the night before.  Oops #2:  my back-up cape came off!  After a complete panic, which included running through the school halls and texting the principal and teachers, I learned of his location which was about a half mile down the road.  At least he was going in the right direction–which was a big accomplishment that he knew where to go!   When I reached him, he was sweating…and smiling ear-to-ear.  He loved it!  This is a boy who never exercises despite all my prodding!  He felt so independent and proud of himself.    Now he says he wants to do it every day!   So we talked about never getting into anyone’s car, not even if his “friends” ask him.  He’s now walking a few blocks until he reaches my car.  He’s gaining his independence, and finally getting some daily exercise!

Now every child is different–especially those with special needs.  My point is simply this:  don’t assume your child is not capable of doing certain tasks.  Even if it is just letting them try to put on their own shoes and find the correct shoe for the right foot.  Take some time occasionally from your busy schedule and let your supermom cape fall off.  Hopefully, your little one will surprise you too.

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Don’t give up on handwriting– It’s still relevant and critical

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Since each day in our lives seem to involve more and more technology, it is obvious to see that the day to day handwriting from our generation is becoming less and less prominent.   Sure, many can type out thoughts faster on a keyboard than to write them by hand. But there are still many times throughout the day when technology is simply not available and the trusty paper and pencil are the perfect super heroes. Throughout the day, I find myself constantly jotting down phone numbers, writing notes about conversations, making grocery lists, or scrawling quick reminders to put on the refrigerator so I don’t forget something.   Using technology for these instances would be less efficient, in my opinion. We need to keep in mind the relevancy of handwriting.

I was inspired to write this blog when my family and I were hurrying to get into our basement after a tornado warning.   I was thinking about the power going out and I began thinking; no power–no computer.   Once a battery is dead, what would someone do if they needed to make notes but couldn’t write because they only knew how to type? Thankfully that was never an issue for some of the amazing people in our past like Anne Frank. Her hand written journals were used to create one of the most treasured books or our time

.Ryan writing on paperMy son Ryan (pictured) struggled with handwriting until we discovered we could teach him using video modeling.   I can’t imagine how much money and time would have been spent on accommodations in his schools throughout his last 10 years if we had given up on teaching him to write. When students are struggling with writing, I encourage teachers and parents not to give up; continue working with them on basic penmanship rather than turning to keyboarding just to save time. Our TV Teacher video modeling method has made handwriting breakthroughs for thousands of children!   Keep in mind kids still need to work on their math assignments using paper and pencil.  Fill in the blank, multiple choice, and drawing assignments are seen nightly in my house.  I hope you agree that we should all try to help keep the skill of handwriting alive and well!

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Preparing kids for vacations–critical visuals for Autism and Down syndrome

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Having two boys on the Autism spectrum, I learned early on that visuals are a very effective way to communicate with my sons. Simple visual strategies such as a list of the day’s activities, or even a social story about what to expect in new situations has been my saving grace for over a decade.

As the summer is now upon us here in the USA, you may be planning on taking a vacation. If your children have special needs such as Autism, Down syndrome, Sensory Integration Disorder, etc., “fun vacations” could be very traumatic to them because they are out of their normal routine. There may be a lot of new sensory information to process (ie. new places to see, different smells, louder sounds, hotter weather, etc.) which can sometimes be overwhelming.

A week before you travel, take a few moments to gather some pictures of your adventure: where you will be staying, relatives you may see, places you will go, and types of transportation you may use. You may even want to include a map of where you live vs. where you will be going to give them some orientation. Providing this information at least a week in advance gives children an opportunity to feel more “in control” because they will be able to process the information, mentally prepare for it, and hopefully get excited about their trip.

Last month, we took our boys to Washington DC for a few days. I knew there would be many buildings that would look alike to them, and that there would be plenty of walking which would exhaust them. I made a small map for them and circled the places we would visit (see below). I also gave them a quick list (with pictures) of what we would see each day. As we expected, they were hot and tired, but we didn’t have any major meltdowns because they were mentally prepared for the day. I wish you safe and happy melt-free travels too!

dc map

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Parent and teacher teamwork–a must for your child with special needs!

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Having two boys on the Autism Spectrum, I am reminded on a daily basis that they have difficulty understanding things the first time being presented. As with most children with Autism (as well as those with Down syndrome, ADHD, or other special needs), visuals and repetition are the best keys to helping them learn.

My boys always have a hard time with auditory processing and giving their complete focus in a typical “gen-ed” classroom.   Even if the teacher presents items visually, all the classroom activity can be overwhelming and lessons don’t “sink in” the first time.

In 2nd grade, subjects like social studies and science tend to become more abstract. This can be very difficult for children with special needs who are typically “concrete” thinkers. I have found great success when I can take just 15 minutes to pre-teach them new material over the weekend.   Reviewing a new concept by reading the chapter together in a quiet room, doing a quick reinforcing activity, or even finding a short video about it online, can make a big difference in their confidence and attentiveness in class on Monday. The repetition of hearing the material again, and in a different way, will also help children better retain this knowledge.

Having an extra copy of your child’s textbooks at home is very helpful for pre-teaching and reviewing throughout the week. Talk with your teachers and ask them to give you the topic and chapter they will be covering the following week. It will be a win-win for everyone.

NOTE: When using our TV Teacher handwriting program, make a copy of the auditory chants we use (located inside the DVD case) and share them among your parent/teacher team. This way, both team members are able to help reinforce the language and correct formation as the child learns to write his letters.

reading with childFor more information about The TV Teacher’s award-winning handwriting programs, please visit our website: www.thetvteacher.com

Using motivators to help those with Autism or Down syndrome succeed

As a mother of two Susan Ellis - head shotchildren with Autism, I have used many ways to motivate my children to stay on task, complete their homework, and behave appropriately.   One thing that always works is finding out what THEY are wanting on that day. Finding their “carrot” is always a more fun and positive path to accomplishment.

Traditional motivators could be something like stickers, food “treats”, or even a trip to the “treasure chest” filled with items from a dollar store. You could also extend the reward slightly by making a visual chart. For instance, place a check mark for each time they correctly go to the bathroom. Three check marks = their reward. I recently even used this extended reward system for my son (high functioning Autism) in middle school when we were trying to motivate him to stay on task in class (see chart below).

My friend has a child with Down syndrome who loves to simply spend time with mommy. There is your reward and motivator! Help him through his homework using this idea. Reward him for practicing his spelling words by offering to dance with him to his favorite music, or do a quick puzzle.

  • Choose the reward or motivator to be something they really want to work for.
  • Make a visual of this “offer” so they see exactly what they need to do to earn it.
  • Make it attainable in a reasonable amount of time. (Note: younger children need a reward more immediately; older children are better able to handle a slightly extended reward system.)

Using motivators also works well with teaching children handwriting–especially those with special needs that need…an extra carrot.

img015For more information about The TV Teacher’s award-winning handwriting programs, please visit our website: www.thetvteacher.com